| Once a woman is accustomed
to anal stimulation, and you are aware of when her anus is relaxed,
and not tensed, you can start exploring anal penetration. The anus and
rectum are very delicate so be sure to only insert smooth objects that
do not have any sharp edges. Trim your fingernails. Wearing rubber or
latex gloves will make your finger(s) easier to insert. Massage the
anal ring and wait for it to relax and open up. Once it has, start
pressing the tip of a single finger slightly into the anus. If you
feel it tighten, stop, withdrawal your finger, and resume the anal
massage for a couple of minutes. When her anus has relaxed again,
slowly insert your fingertip again. Go slow and do not try to insert
your entire finger in the beginning. In fact, only a small portion of
your finger may enter before the anus tightens. If you go to fast, she
may experience considerable discomfort, ruining the moment and
possibly ending your exploration of anal sex. She can also learn to
sense when her anus is tensed, and learn to relax it. Doing Kegel
exercises while a partner's finger is inserted will help a woman learn
how to do this. This will come in handy later when larger objects are
inserted. In the beginning you just want to insert your finger without
moving it around. You want to condition her to the feeling of
something being in her anus. She will likely enjoy the feeling of
something being in her anus when she experiences orgasm. Once she is
comfortable with being dilated, slowly start to move your finger in
and out, and around. Gently stretch her anus by pushing outward on her
anal ring. Once a woman has learned to enjoy the insertion of a single
finger, start inserting a second. Always go slow and be sure she
remains relaxed. |
Once you are able to
insert two fingers, you may want to acquire a couple "butt plugs" to
help condition her to further dilation. Butt plugs are tapered dildos
with a flared base. The taper allows you to slowly dilate the anus.
The flared base prevents it from accidentally slipping all the way up
into the rectum. You should never insert anything into the anus that
does not have a flared base, as the rectum can draw objects in, and it
can be difficult to get them out. Requiring an embarrassing trip to
the doctor. Butt plugs come in many sizes, from the size of a slender
finger, to the size of large fist. For the majority of people, a small
and medium butt sized plug, 0.5 to 1.5 inches across, will do the job.
For women who like the intense feeling of large objects being
inserted, the sky is the limit. Silicone dildos are the best choice as
they are smooth, flexible, and easy to clean. They are more expensive,
but will serve you far better in the long run. It is also a good idea
to put a condom on the butt plug, or dildo; it will make clean up
easier, and protect non-silicone toys. To use a butt plug, massage and
slowly dilate her anus with your finger(s) first. Once you are able to
insert one or two fingers comfortably, place the small butt plug at
her anal opening, then with a single finger, slowly press it in a
little ways. Then allow her anus to push the butt plug back out. Then
press it back in again. Using only a single finger to press in on the
plug to help prevent you from using too much force. Very slowly repeat
this process, inserting the butt plug a little further each time, if
her anus permits it. Try to caress her clitoris while doing this. With
patience the butt plug should slip all the way in and stay in place,
due to its slender base. |
The smaller butt
plugs may not stay in as well as larger ones, because their base is almost as
big around as the largest part of the tapered section. Once the plug is in,
leave it alone and make love to her. Perform cunnilingus and have vaginal
intercourse if she so desires. More importantly, bring her to orgasm. Allow her
to enjoy the feeling of something being in her anus during orgasm. After a
couple sessions you can start to work the butt plug in and out, stimulating her
anus. If she is comfortable with the butt plug being inserted, allow it to
remain so for fifteen to twenty minutes to help condition her anus to dilation,
after you are done making love. Many women may enjoy the feeling of the butt
plug when it is inserted. It is okay to leave it in for longer periods of time
if she is comfortable doing so. Once you are done, slowly slip the butt plug
out, and wash and dry it in preparation for the next time. Once she learns to
enjoy the small butt plug, switch over to the medium sized one; you may need to
use the small one in preparation for the medium one during the same session. Go
slow and have fun. Do not be goal orientated. In preparation for anal
intercourse you will probably want to buy a dildo that is equal in
size to your penis, if you are male; lesbians can choose any sized
dildo for their harness. Using a dildo will provide you with more
control over the amount of pressure applied to the anus during
insertion, and greater control over your own movements. Get one with a
flared base so it cannot slip all the way in. Again silicone dildos
are more expensive but a better buy. Slowly stretch her anus with
fingers and butt plugs first, then slowly and gently insert the dildo. |
At first, just let her get use to the dilation. It does
not have a small base, so her anus will be fully dilated all the time. This may
be very intense for her. Allow her time to adjust to the greater constant
dilation. When she is relaxed, slowly move the dildo in and out. Go very slow at
first. Allow her to guide your movements. As always, be sure to bring her to
orgasm.
By the time you consider anal intercourse, she should be so accustomed to anal
penetration that she has no apprehensions at all. There should be no fear of
hurting her. She needs to welcome the idea of your penis entering her anus.
Prepare her anus with your fingers and butt plugs first. Go slow. Schedule an
entire evening or day for this special occasion. During the insertion of your
penis, she must be in control of how far your penis enters her, and the
movements of your bodies. So she needs to be on top, or on her hands and knees.
She needs to lower herself down onto or push herself back onto your penis. She
must open and receptive to your penis, versus you pushing your penis in. Once
the head of your penis is in, she should stop and relax for a couple minutes, to
get use to the dilation; and feel your body heat. When she feels comfortable,
she can take in the remainder of your penis, once again she needs to stop and
relax. When she is comfortable, she can either remain still, or start moving
slowly back and forth or up and down. Go slow, the sensations can be very
intense. It helps if while doing all of this if one of you massages her clitoris
and/or breasts. Bring her to orgasm prior to penetration to help her relax, and
be more receptive. Once you are in, bring her to another orgasm. |
